Socialization By Ignorant Tolerance

When most people “socialize” their dogs, they have puppy playdates and take them to dog parks. This practice is rarely successful, though. Why? Because dogs are not human. Canines do not process socialization the same way as humans do. So to attempt to socialize them as you would a human child can actually be quite counter-productive.

Consider a pack of wolves – they grow up around their family members and close friends. Packs do not get along with other wolf packs. This is why they set up clear territorial boundaries to warn other packs to keep away. They do not force their pups to go meet strangers; the Morning Moon Pack doesn’t meet-up with the Clear River Pack every Saturday for a puppy playdate. The pups grow up completely socialized, despite being only ever being exposed to their own pack members.

So how’s this accomplished? Balance! A balanced dog does not exhibit negative behaviors. Since all the wolves in the pack are likely balanced (as the complex, cohesive nature of a wolf pack would quickly fall apart if there was an imbalance), they teach these balanced behaviors to their pups. Proper manners, communication, and expectations among ranks are all important tools that wolves (and dogs) teach their pups. These tools allow them to correctly interact with other canines.

If you are to take your puppy on “playdates,” we suggest doing so with well-balanced adult dogs and being cognizant to advocate for your dog. But when it comes to domesticated pups, we suggest that rather than taking your dog on playdates, you teach your dog ignorant tolerance. Get your dog to focus on you and work with you despite the presence of other dogs. Treat other dogs as you would with any negative stimulus. Encourage your pup to tolerate other dogs by ignoring them and engaging with you. Not only will this strengthen your pack bond, but it will also dissuade your dog from developing any anxiety or aggression towards other dogs. This practice, combined with proper balance (structure + affection) at home, will help produce a well-socialized dog.

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